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La vidéo d’une durée de 00:26:56 secondes, intitulée Brain Rewire Podcast: No Porn November (w/Dr. Trish Leigh), créée par [vid_author_name], est accompagnée de la description suivante :« Je suis de retour! J’ai récemment lutté avec l’empoisonnement toxique des moisissures, ce qui a été un défi de plusieurs façons. La récupération n’a pas été un processus amusant, mais je suis heureux de dire que je me sens mieux et je suis ravi de vous apporter un nouveau podcast! Juste à temps pour No Nut novembre aussi! Pour vous aider à traverser #NonutNovember #nofapNovember, et #NopMonovember, j’ai conçu un programme pour seulement 33 $ qui vous aidera à avoir un novembre réussi. Cette vidéo passera en revue la leçon en 15 parties incluse dans le programme et offrira un aperçu de ce que vous avez à attendre. À propos de cette chaîne de recâblage porno: Salut. Je suis le Dr Trish Leigh, neuroscientifique cognitif. Je suis en mission pour aider les gens à guérir leur cerveau de l’utilisation du porno. My videos are designed to help you learn that: Porn Damages Your Brain Porn Impairs Your Mental and Physical Health Porn Destroys Your Relationships Subscribe to this channel for brain tips to: Quit Porn for Good Heal Your Brain from Porn Get Motivated in Your Life Repair Your Mental & Physical Health Heal Erectile Dysfunction If you need more help, I can work directly with you. Consultez les programmes https://drtrishleigh.com/ Faire un don au porno Prevention, l’organisme à but non lucratif pour aider les adolescents à éviter la dépendance au porno https: //pornbrainprevention.org/ formation cérébrale pour quitter le porno. Obtenez le bandeau ci-dessous avec la remise de 20% incluse. (La remise apparaît à la caisse … cherchez-le là-bas!) Https://drtrishleigh.com/muse-headband/ Connectons-nous! Consultez mon linkTree https://linktr.ee/drtrishleigh #ereCTILEDYSFUNCTION #DELAYEDEDJACULATION #PREMATUREEIRGE #DELAYEDGRATIFIFICATION #SEMENSERTIST #EDGING #TESTOSTOSTENO # NOFAP2023 #NOPMO #PMOADDICTION #PMO #MONKMODE #SEXADDICT Pour quitter les étapes porno ».

YouTube est une plateforme où les créateurs peuvent partager leurs idées, allant de contenus informatifs à des discussions plus personnelles, tout en garantissant le respect des règles et de la diversité. C’est un lieu d’échange sécurisé qui favorise la réflexion sur une multitude de thématiques.

Réinventer son image sans laisser place à la pornographie

Adopter une approche éthique de la sexualité

Pratiquer une sexualité responsable et respectueuse renforce les liens affectifs et l’intimité L’arrêt de la pornographie demande une réflexion approfondie, des ressources adéquates et un accompagnement continu. Grâce à la compréhension de la dépendance et à une démarche planifiée, on peut surmonter cette dépendance et vivre une sexualité plus saine. Adopter des habitudes saines et prendre conscience des effets négatifs est un premier pas (voir ce service pour la pratique de la chasteté masculine).

Construire une vie plus responsable grâce à des choix réfléchis

Explorer des pratiques enrichissantes, comme la méditation ou le yoga, crée une connexion corps-esprit forte qui aide à limiter les envies excessives

Entourer de personnes bienveillantes aide à se sentir soutenu

Créer des relations profondes et réelles aide à remplacer les désirs virtuels par une sexualité épanouie et partagée

Mieux comprendre l’attirance excessive pour le contenu pornographique

Décrypter les effets du porno sur le fonctionnement quotidien

L’addiction dégrade les relations personnelles, affaiblit l’image de soi et complique la construction de connexions sincères. Un usage intensif de contenus pornographiques peut entraîner une dépendance affective exclusive à ces matériaux

Déceler les symptômes caractéristiques d’une addiction

La consommation compulsive de pornographie, souvent associée à des sentiments de honte, perturbe les relations et les performances au travail.

Investiguer les dynamiques internes et leurs impacts

Le circuit de récompense, suractivé par la pornographie, conditionne le cerveau à rechercher continuellement cette stimulation, intensifiant la dépendance et le mal-être psychologique.

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S’appuyer sur des outils numériques et applications pour évaluer les progrès

Des applications et des outils numériques permettent non seulement de suivre les progrès, mais aussi d’envoyer des rappels positifs et de renforcer les habitudes saines pour limiter l’exposition à la pornographie.

Se diriger vers un professionnel pour un suivi en santé mentale

Solliciter l’aide d’un professionnel des dépendances comportementales, comme un psychologue formé à la TCC, permet d’identifier les causes sous-jacentes et de bénéficier d’une approche adaptée.

Prendre part à des sessions de soutien collectif

Les groupes de soutien sont des espaces où chacun peut partager son expérience, recevoir des conseils pratiques et bénéficier du soutien des autres sur la voie du rétablissement.

Définir une stratégie adaptée afin d’entamer un sevrage durable

Établir des objectifs concrets et réalistes

Un plan de sevrage efficace commence par des objectifs précis, comme diminuer progressivement le temps de consommation de porno. La réflexion sur les raisons sous-jacentes à l’addiction et sur les bénéfices d’une vie sans porno est indispensable.

Aménager un cadre favorable à la détente

Le recours aux extensions de navigateur ou aux applications de contrôle parental permet de limiter l’accès aux contenus pornographiques. Parallèlement, organiser son emploi du temps pour intégrer des activités constructives peut aussi diminuer les envies compulsives.

Adopter des stratégies pour mieux gérer les pulsions

L’un des aspects importants de la gestion des comportements indésirables est la reconnaissance des déclencheurs. La TCC, les activités constructives et le soutien de proches sont des outils essentiels.

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Retranscription des paroles de la vidéo: welcome back for another episode of 
the podcast porn brain rewire I am your hostess with the mostest Dr Trish Lee and 
I am so grateful to not only be here but to be alive and well enough to be able to be here so 
I’m on my own recovery Journey from toxic mold poisoning and it has been a challenging 
one but um that’s why I’ve kind of been hit or miss with new episodes of the podcast 
but I am dedicated know that so I am trying um okay so without further Ado what I wanted to 
talk about in this podcast is that we are quickly approaching November and if you have been along 
for the ride for the last year or two with me um you know that many people celebrate or attempt 
the challenge of no porn November which is also called No pmo November or nofap November 
so I hope that you will join the challenge um I have a program that I’m offering for 33 
dollars that you can join and it’s a really cool program that I am so excited to offer it’s 
a closed program so that we know who’s in it and we’re able to offer support along the way and 
then going along with that there will be free sure shorts on YouTube so the way that it’s offered 
is every other day there is a new video with a new lesson and in the paid program there’s an 
exercise that you engage in with every single lesson so you learn something and then you go do 
it that’s how real change happens so in today’s episode I want to talk about basically the 
14 primary lessons that are in the program um and actually there’s 15 as I’m looking at them 
I kept adding things and trying not to let it get away from me and basically it’s every other day 
so it’s 15 lessons and one bonus lesson on how to use your Muse brain sensing headband so today I 
just want to present a quick synopsis of what you have to look forward to in November so that I can 
support you on your journey of leaving pornography behind now like any good journey it’s not what 
you’re leaving behind that’s important it’s what you’re moving toward and as I briefly tell you 
what each of the lessons in this program are and what they Encompass you’ll quickly see we 
very rarely and just for a glimpse talk about leaving porn behind the rest of it is figuring out 
who you really are the real you on the inside and how you can become that version because when you 
live an authentic life there’s no need to escape from it and that’s truly what a porn habit is 
it’s just escapism it’s escapism from stress from overwhelm from boredom from moods from feelings 
and you know it’s you’ve heard me say this before it’s not your fault because this habit started 
when you were young and it’s highly addictive but it is your responsibility at this point and 
you are never too old it is never too late to kick this Habit to the curb and become the best 
version of yourself I’ve gotten an email from someone who’s 58 years old and he’s basically 
like you know eff it because it might just be too late I’ve been doing this for three decades 
well friend if you’re listening 58 is Young it’s not the three decades that you’ve lost or you 
seemingly have lost to this Behavior what it is is the three decades that you can look forward to 
in the future so anchor into that and 58’s not old at all there’s a lifetime ahead of you and it is 
absolutely worth taking the journey I want you to remember that but like any good journey uh there’s 
Hills there’s roadblocks there’s stumbles that you’ll make and I’m here to help you and to guide 
you and to move you along that Journey alright so no porn November coming up please join the program 
if you’re inspired the information is below the link to join is below this podcast and you 
can also find it on my YouTube channel Dr Trish Lee pornbrain rewire um okay so what’s what’s 
some of the first things that we’re going to look at one of the first lessons is the magic 
pill to quit porn and I cannot tell you what that magic pill is here obviously because that 
is one of the special aspects of the program so when you get into the program I tell you what 
that magic pill is to get you going in the right direction then what we talk about is putting 
your own needs first and learning how to do that in a compassionate loving way that’s lesson 
two that’s very difficult I’ve been learning to do that in my own Journey so I was thinking about 
this when I got into porn addiction recovery helping my friend it was really an emotional 
battle for me it’s always cognitive because I’m a thinker but it also was primarily emotional 
it was difficult for me to emotionally figure out what was going on with all you know all this stuff 
and I’m sure you’re in a place where if you have a porn habit or you know someone who is addicted 
to pornography it’s trippy because it’s emotional in nature and physically it’s difficult to put 
your thumb on and then with the mold toxic mold poisoning that I have it was showing up physically 
for me not necessarily cognitively or mentally so it was really a physical journey and I’m still 
on a really physical journey of healing my body but it’s never just emotional and it’s never 
just physical and I was thinking about this as I was putting my Jimmy rigged setup together in 
my new townhouse that I’m in for a couple more months when my house gets repaired um I was 
thinking you know porn recovery started as a really emotional Journey but then it encompasses 
you know body mind and the true self and this mold thing really started as a physical Journey 
but it’s really begun to Encompass emotional and mental and spiritual aspect for me also because 
all transformational Journeys Encompass all of them and that’s a really important factor to 
recognize so if you’re struggling with erectile dysfunction that’s a physical symptom and you 
might not feel the cognitive or the emotional symptoms cognitive symptoms are ADHD like symptoms 
not being able to focus low motivation your get up and go got up and went on the emotional 
components that go with the porn addiction might be increased anxiety increased depression 
mood swings irritability anger Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde but there’s always all three of them wrapped 
up in any transformational Journey so I address all three of them my Approach is a neuro oh and 
neon big bold print neuro we look at your brain performance pattern and we improve it not only do 
we see it we improve it and then we check it again we see it again bio which is your body and your 
biology and psycho which is your psychology your mental health and how it impacts your mental 
health and your thinking the cognitive aspect but also social how your porn habit impacts your 
relationships how your relationships impact your porn habit it encompasses all of them and you’re 
going to find all of them in this no porn November program so I just kind of wanted to highlight 
that because I was thinking about it and in my journey of putting my own needs first as I have 
been sick and I’ve been trying to heal Wow have I realized how often I put everybody else’s needs 
first and my needs last and a classic example and of course my husband would kill me if he heard 
me say this but as I’ve told you I don’t think he listens to or watches any of my stuff which 
is fine we went to Key West with our besties to try to it was a healing uh weekend don’t get me 
wrong involves in partying but it was really fun and relaxing with our best friends and we get 
on the plane and the hubs opens his airpod case no airpods that man’s got no airpods and you 
know he’ll watch an entire movie the whole time we’re traveling I put my airpods in I put in 
noise canceling mode so I can cancel out all the other human beings you’ve met me right cancel out 
those human beings and usually I listen to music I’ll listen to Jazz just to chill my brain out and 
meditate and relax while I’m traveling so the way I saw it was I don’t really need the airpods but 
I do like them and enjoy them and I want them but the hubs opens his airpod case no airpods and 
I literally have my hand and it is going over to him to hand the airpods and I’m like trying 
to pull it back I can feel the internal struggle which I would have not felt before I would have 
just given them my airpods and done my thing and this time I’m like oh my gosh I should not be 
giving him my earpods I need to respond to my own needs first and I ended up giving him the airpods 
for both flights I’m a work in progress I’m a work in progress I gave it to him the airpods for 
both flights he watched his movie and I had the pleasure of listening to a crying baby for 
a little while on the way back yep my needs out the window so I am a work in progress but putting 
your needs first is important it’s come to the top during my own healing Journey so we’re going to 
address that I’m moving on to lesson three I have a really important strategy for you I call it a 
reverse move and again I can’t talk about it in length here we’d run out of time but the way out 
of this is to really feel your feelings to be able to acknowledge them and then to be able to act on 
them and if you’re caught up in a porn habit it’s by Design to not feel your feelings it numbs you 
out it keeps those feelings at Bay so clearly the solution is where the problem is that if you’re 
not feeling your feelings how do you act on them how do you respond to other people’s feelings 
using your own you can because all of that is being numbed out and in lesson three there’s a 
reverse move that I teach you so that you can begin to feel your own feelings begin to act in a 
new way so that you can feel your feelings and you can break this negative feedback loop that you’re 
stuck in and get moving with a positive feedback loop now to remind you a negative feedback loop 
is the proverbial downward spiral the positive feedback loop is a beautiful upward spiral and 
there is no such thing as a horizontal spiral you’re either moving forward or you’re moving 
backward there’s no standing still in this thing there’s no standing still in life so I want you 
to create the upward spiral this is the move this is the main move okay Lesson Four is watching your 
thoughts to quit porn and it’s pretty wild because a lot of times you don’t realize that old crusty 
Dusty programming that you’re acting on and I’ve been exploring my programming during my healing 
Journey like I said it’s physical but I’m taking the opportunity to clean the shelves in terms 
of the emotional baggage that I have you know and I’m always cleaning out the closet I guess uh 
in Eminem’s words right so the point is that you watch your thoughts it creates more self-awareness 
which allows you to act in a new way and we’re going to address that um okay number five is 
stressed out if you love 21 Pilots like I do um they have a song about being stressed out 
stress is the number one factor that’s going to push you into the screen as it’s trying 
to pull you back with its dopamine hits so figuring out where your stress lies and learning 
how to deal with it in a new way is critical crucial and we explore that and I give you an 
exercise to be able to handle that better into the future then moving on to the next lesson is 
your porn cycle I think I numbered these wrongs by the way oh um I know what it is is I missed one 
but we’ll we’ll double back to it your porn cycle figuring it out and I’ve taught about the porn 
cycle a lot on you on YouTube on my YouTube channel but there is a definite cycle and the 
way that you act behaviorally in the way that you feel in terms of urges and moods that has 
to do with the dopamine cycle and I call it the triple d’s but actually it’s more of a quadruple 
D is that there’s a dopamine drip when you have the thought that you’re going to watch porn so 
even at the first inkling that you’re going to watch your brain’s already dripping dopamine and 
we know from the science that your brain will follow that drip to the dopamine Deluge the flood 
your brain wants that flood to feel good to numb out and to not feel those feelings and it will 
follow once the drip starts it’s very difficult to move away from it once you’re dripping that’s 
the three second rule you’ve got three seconds to Pivot and run in the opposite direction because 
once the Deluge starts flowing and you get set up and you’re moving towards watching porn 
your brain’s getting the flood the fourth D that I’ve included is a dopamine drowning and 
that comes after the flood that’s when you feel so good and you’d feel nothing actually and and 
I see it on people’s Muse brain training graphs in their mind biofeedback their mind meditation 
graphs if your lines all the way down at the bottom and you’re a hundred percent calm and 
you’ve watched porn it’s artificial induction of calm it’s fake it’s not real that’s some fake 
news right there so I see it in people’s brains all the time which is why I’ve started to call 
it the dopamine drowning because literally your brains drowned out in dopamine and when you drown 
your brain in dopamine that’s what’s damaging your brain that’s what’s desensitizing the reward 
center and making it so that you couldn’t possibly be aroused by your partner because it your partner 
could never give you that level of dopamine so you no longer find your partner attractive or you 
have erectile dysfunction because you can’t get aroused without a three-ring circus so that’s 
what I’m talking about the dopamine drowning which then leads to the dopamine deficit and the 
dopamine deficit you go back into your life and it stinks you’re anxious there’s no happiness 
there there’s stress there you’re irritable it’s because you you don’t have enough dopamine there 
anymore because of this cycle you actually have an increase in cortisol the stress hormone your 
brain’s off the chain and your life feels terrible because of this cycle and I want you to break 
this cycle you need to know about it and then I’m going to give you a strategy to break it okay 
so then next is balancing the scales of Justice if you add stress on any given day you have to add 
stress relief and you have life static it’s not dining it’s not static it’s Dynamic it’s forever 
changing so figuring figuring that out is critical what we’re talking about here are the four pillars 
of emotional intelligence so we’re talking about self-awareness is number one figuring out all 
these things about yourself which it can be so difficult to figure out what you have going 
on when you’re using this distorted thought system that your brain is creating because 
of porn consumption so when you watch porn it really messes with the way that you see 
the world you see yourself you perceive sex you perceive mood regulation it throws everything 
into a massive Distortion so self-awareness can be very challenging self-awareness can be very 
low for people who are caught in a porn cycle so you might need help figuring out some things about 
yourself because a lot of times you can’t see it in the mirror you know how that goes uh actually 
I’ve been watching the crown in my sickness uh and I talk about it in the program a little about 
how I’ve been watching it to help myself heal but in there uh the actor Matt Smith who plays 
Prince Philip he’s talking about how your partners can see in you the things that you can’t see in 
yourself and that was really interesting because it’s true you know you can’t see your own junk 
other people see your junk and they might call you out on it and you might not love that and 
that’s why having a coach can be really crucial to helping you to move through this journey so 
think about it get into coaching if it feels good um Zach Carter is the primary porn addiction 
recovery coach on my team so you can there’s information below in the podcast if 
you’re interested if you don’t want to work with him sorry I gotta move my feet 
here and on the ground in my Jimmy rigged uh in my Jamie rigged podcast studio um if you 
don’t want to work with him please think about getting a coach that feels good to you having 
a good relationship is the most important thing um yeah I’m so psyched about potentially moving 
back into my home if we can get it demoldified enough and get it clean enough for me it’s clean 
enough for everybody else right now but when your immune system becomes trash from mold it has to 
be hyper clean so we’re planning on moving back in and I have already thought because I have to 
get rid of all of the stuff up in my office so you won’t be seeing my signature picture that’s been 
behind me for so long I’ll have to get some new pictures and Furniture but I was already thinking 
I’m going to get myself the sweetest podcast Studio up there so something to look forward to 
something to look forward to listening to also because I’ll have some great sound quality once I 
get that set up so that’s pretty fun so if stress comes in like I was talking about life’s Dynamic 
it’s not static if stress comes in being able to offset that stress but you need to be able to see 
it first um then what I was talking about actually is watching yourself and watching other people 
so what we were talking about is self-awareness is the first pillar self-regulation being able 
to change your own behavior after you see it is number two number three is social awareness 
being able to Vibe what other people have going on and number four relationship management 
being able to show up in your relationships in a really healthy way with healthy interaction 
style and healthy communication which can be really distorted from the porn addicted standpoint 
because a lot of times you are in a narcissistic bubble porn creates a narcissistic bubble because 
when you’re trapped in the dopamine cycle of insatiable pleasure seeking all your brain wants 
is more pleasure so it starts seeing everything in the world as objects for potential pleasure 
people are objects for your potential pleasure opportunities nights out they’re just times for 
pleasure and I would challenge you in this podcast get your Journal out and look at how much you are 
trying to get towards pleasure in this journey remember it’s not what you’re trying to get away 
from it’s what you’re moving towards and if you’re moving towards constant pleasure seeking you’re 
not moving towards your purpose in your work in your relationships and in your hobbies purpose is 
the thing that breaks that quadruple D cycle when you’re in a life that you love so much there’s 
no need to escape into pleasure all the time so watch for that and those are the pillars so the 
four pillars of emotional intelligence are like a table they’re like this little table you can only 
see three legs on the video of the table behind me but tables have four legs and those emotional 
pillars are the four legs on a table and it’s self-awareness leg number one the ability to see 
your own stuff and see what you have going on number two self-regulation the ability to make new 
changes take new action steps have new thoughts feel your feelings approach and engage and move 
towards a new life self-regulation number three is social awareness look at what your peeps have 
going on and be able to respond in a healthy way where if your brain’s all looking for dopamine 
that’ll be difficult relationship management is responding in the healthy way and I was talking 
to Curtis the neuro coach who helps me in being able to provide neurofeedback for people which 
is another service on my website I was talking to Curtis today and when we got done talking 
about this table I sent him a bitmoji if you have the bitmoji app and if you know me I 
love a good bitmoji I sent him the bitmoji of me flipping the table right I said let’s flip 
some emotional tables today let’s go rock it out um so I want you to flip your table and be 
aware that the legs are there and if you lose a leg you lose emotional maturity so those 
are the four pieces you have to have okay the next lesson is taping your lips shut learning to 
respond in a healthy way now if you’re a person who reacts I really want you to think about 
those reactions another takeaway from today’s from today’s podcast is today over the next 24 
hours see how many times you snap at somebody see how many times you make a little comment a 
little Zinger just to annoy somebody see how many times you feel defensive and you throw something 
out there see how many times you react and tape your lips shut and do more listening and less 
snapping and less reacting because that’s how you learn to respond and in that lesson I 
give you the strategy to be able to do that um then in the next lesson I want you to be able 
to view the the screen I give you a hypnotherapy strategy to view the screen of your young life to 
look at your programming from the past so you can update that crusty Dusty programming so that now 
you can move into the future in a new way what all my programs are about is rewiring your brain so 
what we’re going to do is unwire that old crusty Dusty programming we’re going to do a software 
update we’re going to rewire your brain and the way you move through the world and we’re gonna 
hardwire that in by feeling your goals that’s the lesson that I skipped earlier is that all your 
goals should have a feeling to it so anchoring into your goals for the future and how they’re 
going to make you feel and how you’re going to feel in the future is different from how you felt 
in the past amazing a beautiful life is waiting for you so I hope you get into this program um 
so we’re gonna look at the screen of your young life to be able to do that then we’re gonna meet 
that hijacker I’ve told you before lots of times on my YouTube channel that your brain has been 
hijacked by porn in this video in this program I will show you who that hijacker is how you can 
identify him and what you can do to help him out then we’re going to take you out of survival 
mode if you’re escaping into porn frequently it’s because you’re just surviving you might not 
even know it you might feel like you’re thriving you’re stuck in surviving and want to help you 
thrive so we’re going to move you out of survival take the mask off and move you into thrival yes 
a word I made up another great non-word that we are going to make a word together thrival my 
friend and get you into thrival so that you can Thrive for the rest of your life and you can 
even thrive in a time of difficulty or chaos so it’s been absolute chaos for me with this mold 
thing I’ve had to move out of my home I had to buy all new furniture because I couldn’t bring 
any with me I had to essentially stop working I have to create a new life to help myself heal and 
come back online My Everything has changed but I’m still thriving I’m staying in that mode 
of thriving so that I can be in peace and I’m going to come out of this thing better than ever 
I refuse to let it make me survive I’m gonna make it make me Thrive and you can do that too and the 
way you do that is by shifting your outlook and I’m going to teach you how to do that to get the 
frame of reference where everything’s here to help you help you level up and to live the life that 
you want to okay so those are the pieces of the no porn November program I really hope you join me 
because when you join no porn November challenge then you can move into December with a 30-day 
streak then you move into the new year new year new brain it’s the perfect opportunity to just 
kick some booty and create the life that you want into the new year I know I’m looking forward to 
it because 2022’s handed me my booty on a platter and I cannot wait for a fresh start I’m going 
to heal myself as much as possible and Fresh Start 2023 here I come I want you to come with 
me so let’s do this thing if you don’t want to join the program which I really encourage you 
to join 33 it’s affordable and it’s there for you if you don’t want to at least subscribe to 
the playlist on YouTube where you get shorts you get a 60 Minute 60 second short every other day 
and in the program you get lessons of different sizes but nice nice comprehensive lessons with 
exercises to move you through okay uh so glad to be back and stay tuned for the next episode in 
the next episode I am going to talk about Easy Button lifestyle and how junk food and porn are 
related and what you can do to put them both to bed okay I hope to see you in the next episode and 
until then control your brain or it’ll control you .

Déroulement de la vidéo:

0.9 welcome back for another episode of 
the podcast porn brain rewire I am
7.44 your hostess with the mostest Dr Trish Lee and 
I am so grateful to not only be here but to be
15.6 alive and well enough to be able to be here so 
I’m on my own recovery Journey from toxic mold
22.74 poisoning and it has been a challenging 
one but um that’s why I’ve kind of been
29.76 hit or miss with new episodes of the podcast 
but I am dedicated know that so I am trying
37.98 um okay so without further Ado what I wanted to 
talk about in this podcast is that we are quickly
44.82 approaching November and if you have been along 
for the ride for the last year or two with me
53.22 um you know that many people celebrate or attempt 
the challenge of no porn November which is also
61.38 called No pmo November or nofap November 
so I hope that you will join the challenge
70.08 um I have a program that I’m offering for 33 
dollars that you can join and it’s a really
76.08 cool program that I am so excited to offer it’s 
a closed program so that we know who’s in it
81.72 and we’re able to offer support along the way and 
then going along with that there will be free sure
88.44 shorts on YouTube so the way that it’s offered 
is every other day there is a new video with a
96.66 new lesson and in the paid program there’s an 
exercise that you engage in with every single
104.46 lesson so you learn something and then you go do 
it that’s how real change happens so in today’s
111.6 episode I want to talk about basically the 
14 primary lessons that are in the program
120.0 um and actually there’s 15 as I’m looking at them 
I kept adding things and trying not to let it get
125.04 away from me and basically it’s every other day 
so it’s 15 lessons and one bonus lesson on how
130.86 to use your Muse brain sensing headband so today I 
just want to present a quick synopsis of what you
137.82 have to look forward to in November so that I can 
support you on your journey of leaving pornography
144.3 behind now like any good journey it’s not what 
you’re leaving behind that’s important it’s what
152.34 you’re moving toward and as I briefly tell you 
what each of the lessons in this program are
158.7 and what they Encompass you’ll quickly see we 
very rarely and just for a glimpse talk about
165.36 leaving porn behind the rest of it is figuring out 
who you really are the real you on the inside and
173.1 how you can become that version because when you 
live an authentic life there’s no need to escape
179.22 from it and that’s truly what a porn habit is 
it’s just escapism it’s escapism from stress from
186.06 overwhelm from boredom from moods from feelings 
and you know it’s you’ve heard me say this before
194.1 it’s not your fault because this habit started 
when you were young and it’s highly addictive
199.92 but it is your responsibility at this point and 
you are never too old it is never too late to
208.2 kick this Habit to the curb and become the best 
version of yourself I’ve gotten an email from
214.44 someone who’s 58 years old and he’s basically 
like you know eff it because it might just be
219.84 too late I’ve been doing this for three decades 
well friend if you’re listening 58 is Young it’s
227.16 not the three decades that you’ve lost or you 
seemingly have lost to this Behavior what it is
234.48 is the three decades that you can look forward to 
in the future so anchor into that and 58’s not old
241.26 at all there’s a lifetime ahead of you and it is 
absolutely worth taking the journey I want you to
247.8 remember that but like any good journey uh there’s 
Hills there’s roadblocks there’s stumbles that
254.64 you’ll make and I’m here to help you and to guide 
you and to move you along that Journey alright so
259.32 no porn November coming up please join the program 
if you’re inspired the information is below
265.86 the link to join is below this podcast and you 
can also find it on my YouTube channel Dr Trish
271.98 Lee pornbrain rewire um okay so what’s what’s 
some of the first things that we’re going to
277.74 look at one of the first lessons is the magic 
pill to quit porn and I cannot tell you what
283.2 that magic pill is here obviously because that 
is one of the special aspects of the program
288.9 so when you get into the program I tell you what 
that magic pill is to get you going in the right
295.02 direction then what we talk about is putting 
your own needs first and learning how to do
301.8 that in a compassionate loving way that’s lesson 
two that’s very difficult I’ve been learning to do
308.04 that in my own Journey so I was thinking about 
this when I got into porn addiction recovery
315.24 helping my friend it was really an emotional 
battle for me it’s always cognitive because
319.92 I’m a thinker but it also was primarily emotional 
it was difficult for me to emotionally figure out
325.98 what was going on with all you know all this stuff 
and I’m sure you’re in a place where if you have
332.16 a porn habit or you know someone who is addicted 
to pornography it’s trippy because it’s emotional
339.0 in nature and physically it’s difficult to put 
your thumb on and then with the mold toxic mold
346.02 poisoning that I have it was showing up physically 
for me not necessarily cognitively or mentally so
353.88 it was really a physical journey and I’m still 
on a really physical journey of healing my body
360.3 but it’s never just emotional and it’s never 
just physical and I was thinking about this as
366.18 I was putting my Jimmy rigged setup together in 
my new townhouse that I’m in for a couple more
371.28 months when my house gets repaired um I was 
thinking you know porn recovery started as a
378.36 really emotional Journey but then it encompasses 
you know body mind and the true self and this
383.94 mold thing really started as a physical Journey 
but it’s really begun to Encompass emotional and
390.0 mental and spiritual aspect for me also because 
all transformational Journeys Encompass all of
396.84 them and that’s a really important factor to 
recognize so if you’re struggling with erectile
401.82 dysfunction that’s a physical symptom and you 
might not feel the cognitive or the emotional
407.04 symptoms cognitive symptoms are ADHD like symptoms 
not being able to focus low motivation your get
415.02 up and go got up and went on the emotional 
components that go with the porn addiction
419.28 might be increased anxiety increased depression 
mood swings irritability anger Dr Jekyll and Mr
426.84 Hyde but there’s always all three of them wrapped 
up in any transformational Journey so I address
432.72 all three of them my Approach is a neuro oh and 
neon big bold print neuro we look at your brain
441.06 performance pattern and we improve it not only do 
we see it we improve it and then we check it again
446.1 we see it again bio which is your body and your 
biology and psycho which is your psychology your
454.2 mental health and how it impacts your mental 
health and your thinking the cognitive aspect
459.48 but also social how your porn habit impacts your 
relationships how your relationships impact your
466.56 porn habit it encompasses all of them and you’re 
going to find all of them in this no porn November
471.42 program so I just kind of wanted to highlight 
that because I was thinking about it and in my
476.76 journey of putting my own needs first as I have 
been sick and I’ve been trying to heal Wow have
483.06 I realized how often I put everybody else’s needs 
first and my needs last and a classic example and
490.92 of course my husband would kill me if he heard 
me say this but as I’ve told you I don’t think
495.0 he listens to or watches any of my stuff which 
is fine we went to Key West with our besties to
501.84 try to it was a healing uh weekend don’t get me 
wrong involves in partying but it was really fun
508.62 and relaxing with our best friends and we get 
on the plane and the hubs opens his airpod case
516.06 no airpods that man’s got no airpods and you 
know he’ll watch an entire movie the whole
521.34 time we’re traveling I put my airpods in I put in 
noise canceling mode so I can cancel out all the
527.76 other human beings you’ve met me right cancel out 
those human beings and usually I listen to music
534.36 I’ll listen to Jazz just to chill my brain out and 
meditate and relax while I’m traveling so the way
541.5 I saw it was I don’t really need the airpods but 
I do like them and enjoy them and I want them but
548.4 the hubs opens his airpod case no airpods and 
I literally have my hand and it is going over
555.0 to him to hand the airpods and I’m like trying 
to pull it back I can feel the internal struggle
560.04 which I would have not felt before I would have 
just given them my airpods and done my thing
564.6 and this time I’m like oh my gosh I should not be 
giving him my earpods I need to respond to my own
569.58 needs first and I ended up giving him the airpods 
for both flights I’m a work in progress I’m a work
576.12 in progress I gave it to him the airpods for 
both flights he watched his movie and I had
582.54 the pleasure of listening to a crying baby for 
a little while on the way back yep my needs out
588.48 the window so I am a work in progress but putting 
your needs first is important it’s come to the top
594.84 during my own healing Journey so we’re going to 
address that I’m moving on to lesson three I have
602.22 a really important strategy for you I call it a 
reverse move and again I can’t talk about it in
608.34 length here we’d run out of time but the way out 
of this is to really feel your feelings to be able
615.6 to acknowledge them and then to be able to act on 
them and if you’re caught up in a porn habit it’s
622.98 by Design to not feel your feelings it numbs you 
out it keeps those feelings at Bay so clearly the
629.76 solution is where the problem is that if you’re 
not feeling your feelings how do you act on them
635.52 how do you respond to other people’s feelings 
using your own you can because all of that is
642.12 being numbed out and in lesson three there’s a 
reverse move that I teach you so that you can
648.96 begin to feel your own feelings begin to act in a 
new way so that you can feel your feelings and you
655.56 can break this negative feedback loop that you’re 
stuck in and get moving with a positive feedback
662.1 loop now to remind you a negative feedback loop 
is the proverbial downward spiral the positive
669.3 feedback loop is a beautiful upward spiral and 
there is no such thing as a horizontal spiral
675.84 you’re either moving forward or you’re moving 
backward there’s no standing still in this thing
680.88 there’s no standing still in life so I want you 
to create the upward spiral this is the move this
687.6 is the main move okay Lesson Four is watching your 
thoughts to quit porn and it’s pretty wild because
695.7 a lot of times you don’t realize that old crusty 
Dusty programming that you’re acting on and I’ve
701.94 been exploring my programming during my healing 
Journey like I said it’s physical but I’m taking
706.74 the opportunity to clean the shelves in terms 
of the emotional baggage that I have you know
711.84 and I’m always cleaning out the closet I guess uh 
in Eminem’s words right so the point is that you
720.96 watch your thoughts it creates more self-awareness 
which allows you to act in a new way and we’re
725.82 going to address that um okay number five is 
stressed out if you love 21 Pilots like I do
733.5 um they have a song about being stressed out 
stress is the number one factor that’s going
739.38 to push you into the screen as it’s trying 
to pull you back with its dopamine hits so
745.5 figuring out where your stress lies and learning 
how to deal with it in a new way is critical
751.26 crucial and we explore that and I give you an 
exercise to be able to handle that better into
757.44 the future then moving on to the next lesson is 
your porn cycle I think I numbered these wrongs
765.54 by the way oh um I know what it is is I missed one 
but we’ll we’ll double back to it your porn cycle
773.16 figuring it out and I’ve taught about the porn 
cycle a lot on you on YouTube on my YouTube
778.8 channel but there is a definite cycle and the 
way that you act behaviorally in the way that
787.02 you feel in terms of urges and moods that has 
to do with the dopamine cycle and I call it the
795.54 triple d’s but actually it’s more of a quadruple 
D is that there’s a dopamine drip when you have
801.3 the thought that you’re going to watch porn so 
even at the first inkling that you’re going to
806.58 watch your brain’s already dripping dopamine and 
we know from the science that your brain will
811.92 follow that drip to the dopamine Deluge the flood 
your brain wants that flood to feel good to numb
819.42 out and to not feel those feelings and it will 
follow once the drip starts it’s very difficult
825.18 to move away from it once you’re dripping that’s 
the three second rule you’ve got three seconds to
830.4 Pivot and run in the opposite direction because 
once the Deluge starts flowing and you get set
836.1 up and you’re moving towards watching porn 
your brain’s getting the flood the fourth
841.68 D that I’ve included is a dopamine drowning and 
that comes after the flood that’s when you feel
847.5 so good and you’d feel nothing actually and and 
I see it on people’s Muse brain training graphs
855.0 in their mind biofeedback their mind meditation 
graphs if your lines all the way down at the
861.48 bottom and you’re a hundred percent calm and 
you’ve watched porn it’s artificial induction
868.68 of calm it’s fake it’s not real that’s some fake 
news right there so I see it in people’s brains
876.12 all the time which is why I’ve started to call 
it the dopamine drowning because literally your
880.5 brains drowned out in dopamine and when you drown 
your brain in dopamine that’s what’s damaging
886.32 your brain that’s what’s desensitizing the reward 
center and making it so that you couldn’t possibly
892.68 be aroused by your partner because it your partner 
could never give you that level of dopamine so you
899.94 no longer find your partner attractive or you 
have erectile dysfunction because you can’t get
905.58 aroused without a three-ring circus so that’s 
what I’m talking about the dopamine drowning
911.22 which then leads to the dopamine deficit and the 
dopamine deficit you go back into your life and
917.64 it stinks you’re anxious there’s no happiness 
there there’s stress there you’re irritable it’s
923.88 because you you don’t have enough dopamine there 
anymore because of this cycle you actually have
928.68 an increase in cortisol the stress hormone your 
brain’s off the chain and your life feels terrible
934.68 because of this cycle and I want you to break 
this cycle you need to know about it and then
939.36 I’m going to give you a strategy to break it okay 
so then next is balancing the scales of Justice if
946.98 you add stress on any given day you have to add 
stress relief and you have life static it’s not
953.82 dining it’s not static it’s Dynamic it’s forever 
changing so figuring figuring that out is critical
962.64 what we’re talking about here are the four pillars 
of emotional intelligence so we’re talking about
968.46 self-awareness is number one figuring out all 
these things about yourself which it can be so
974.46 difficult to figure out what you have going 
on when you’re using this distorted thought
979.74 system that your brain is creating because 
of porn consumption so when you watch porn
986.76 it really messes with the way that you see 
the world you see yourself you perceive sex
993.06 you perceive mood regulation it throws everything 
into a massive Distortion so self-awareness can
1000.2 be very challenging self-awareness can be very 
low for people who are caught in a porn cycle so
1007.58 you might need help figuring out some things about 
yourself because a lot of times you can’t see it
1013.58 in the mirror you know how that goes uh actually 
I’ve been watching the crown in my sickness uh and
1020.12 I talk about it in the program a little about 
how I’ve been watching it to help myself heal
1025.28 but in there uh the actor Matt Smith who plays 
Prince Philip he’s talking about how your partners
1033.68 can see in you the things that you can’t see in 
yourself and that was really interesting because
1039.2 it’s true you know you can’t see your own junk 
other people see your junk and they might call
1043.46 you out on it and you might not love that and 
that’s why having a coach can be really crucial
1048.74 to helping you to move through this journey so 
think about it get into coaching if it feels good
1054.74 um Zach Carter is the primary porn addiction 
recovery coach on my team so you can there’s
1060.5 information below in the podcast if 
you’re interested if you don’t want
1064.04 to work with him sorry I gotta move my feet 
here and on the ground in my Jimmy rigged uh
1070.04 in my Jamie rigged podcast studio um if you 
don’t want to work with him please think about
1075.56 getting a coach that feels good to you having 
a good relationship is the most important thing
1081.74 um yeah I’m so psyched about potentially moving 
back into my home if we can get it demoldified
1088.28 enough and get it clean enough for me it’s clean 
enough for everybody else right now but when your
1093.08 immune system becomes trash from mold it has to 
be hyper clean so we’re planning on moving back
1100.46 in and I have already thought because I have to 
get rid of all of the stuff up in my office so you
1105.38 won’t be seeing my signature picture that’s been 
behind me for so long I’ll have to get some new
1110.06 pictures and Furniture but I was already thinking 
I’m going to get myself the sweetest podcast
1114.62 Studio up there so something to look forward to 
something to look forward to listening to also
1120.32 because I’ll have some great sound quality once I 
get that set up so that’s pretty fun so if stress
1127.04 comes in like I was talking about life’s Dynamic 
it’s not static if stress comes in being able to
1133.04 offset that stress but you need to be able to see 
it first um then what I was talking about actually
1139.52 is watching yourself and watching other people 
so what we were talking about is self-awareness
1146.84 is the first pillar self-regulation being able 
to change your own behavior after you see it
1154.34 is number two number three is social awareness 
being able to Vibe what other people have going
1162.56 on and number four relationship management 
being able to show up in your relationships
1167.42 in a really healthy way with healthy interaction 
style and healthy communication which can be
1173.3 really distorted from the porn addicted standpoint 
because a lot of times you are in a narcissistic
1181.52 bubble porn creates a narcissistic bubble because 
when you’re trapped in the dopamine cycle of
1187.64 insatiable pleasure seeking all your brain wants 
is more pleasure so it starts seeing everything
1194.24 in the world as objects for potential pleasure 
people are objects for your potential pleasure
1201.56 opportunities nights out they’re just times for 
pleasure and I would challenge you in this podcast
1208.34 get your Journal out and look at how much you are 
trying to get towards pleasure in this journey
1215.72 remember it’s not what you’re trying to get away 
from it’s what you’re moving towards and if you’re
1220.7 moving towards constant pleasure seeking you’re 
not moving towards your purpose in your work in
1227.0 your relationships and in your hobbies purpose is 
the thing that breaks that quadruple D cycle when
1234.2 you’re in a life that you love so much there’s 
no need to escape into pleasure all the time
1240.26 so watch for that and those are the pillars so the 
four pillars of emotional intelligence are like a
1247.76 table they’re like this little table you can only 
see three legs on the video of the table behind me
1252.56 but tables have four legs and those emotional 
pillars are the four legs on a table and it’s
1260.6 self-awareness leg number one the ability to see 
your own stuff and see what you have going on
1267.2 number two self-regulation the ability to make new 
changes take new action steps have new thoughts
1274.88 feel your feelings approach and engage and move 
towards a new life self-regulation number three
1280.94 is social awareness look at what your peeps have 
going on and be able to respond in a healthy way
1288.02 where if your brain’s all looking for dopamine 
that’ll be difficult relationship management is
1292.88 responding in the healthy way and I was talking 
to Curtis the neuro coach who helps me in being
1299.12 able to provide neurofeedback for people which 
is another service on my website I was talking
1303.26 to Curtis today and when we got done talking 
about this table I sent him a bitmoji if you
1308.24 have the bitmoji app and if you know me I 
love a good bitmoji I sent him the bitmoji
1312.08 of me flipping the table right I said let’s flip 
some emotional tables today let’s go rock it out
1317.96 um so I want you to flip your table and be 
aware that the legs are there and if you
1322.34 lose a leg you lose emotional maturity so those 
are the four pieces you have to have okay the
1328.64 next lesson is taping your lips shut learning to 
respond in a healthy way now if you’re a person
1334.82 who reacts I really want you to think about 
those reactions another takeaway from today’s
1340.16 from today’s podcast is today over the next 24 
hours see how many times you snap at somebody
1346.04 see how many times you make a little comment a 
little Zinger just to annoy somebody see how many
1352.7 times you feel defensive and you throw something 
out there see how many times you react and tape
1360.56 your lips shut and do more listening and less 
snapping and less reacting because that’s how
1366.68 you learn to respond and in that lesson I 
give you the strategy to be able to do that
1371.48 um then in the next lesson I want you to be able 
to view the the screen I give you a hypnotherapy
1378.8 strategy to view the screen of your young life to 
look at your programming from the past so you can
1384.98 update that crusty Dusty programming so that now 
you can move into the future in a new way what all
1391.94 my programs are about is rewiring your brain so 
what we’re going to do is unwire that old crusty
1398.42 Dusty programming we’re going to do a software 
update we’re going to rewire your brain and the
1404.0 way you move through the world and we’re gonna 
hardwire that in by feeling your goals that’s the
1408.98 lesson that I skipped earlier is that all your 
goals should have a feeling to it so anchoring
1414.32 into your goals for the future and how they’re 
going to make you feel and how you’re going to
1418.58 feel in the future is different from how you felt 
in the past amazing a beautiful life is waiting
1423.44 for you so I hope you get into this program um 
so we’re gonna look at the screen of your young
1428.9 life to be able to do that then we’re gonna meet 
that hijacker I’ve told you before lots of times
1434.24 on my YouTube channel that your brain has been 
hijacked by porn in this video in this program
1440.9 I will show you who that hijacker is how you can 
identify him and what you can do to help him out
1448.04 then we’re going to take you out of survival 
mode if you’re escaping into porn frequently
1455.36 it’s because you’re just surviving you might not 
even know it you might feel like you’re thriving
1460.4 you’re stuck in surviving and want to help you 
thrive so we’re going to move you out of survival
1467.12 take the mask off and move you into thrival yes 
a word I made up another great non-word that we
1474.2 are going to make a word together thrival my 
friend and get you into thrival so that you
1479.66 can Thrive for the rest of your life and you can 
even thrive in a time of difficulty or chaos so
1486.92 it’s been absolute chaos for me with this mold 
thing I’ve had to move out of my home I had to
1492.08 buy all new furniture because I couldn’t bring 
any with me I had to essentially stop working I
1498.2 have to create a new life to help myself heal and 
come back online My Everything has changed but
1506.6 I’m still thriving I’m staying in that mode 
of thriving so that I can be in peace and I’m
1512.3 going to come out of this thing better than ever 
I refuse to let it make me survive I’m gonna make
1517.22 it make me Thrive and you can do that too and the 
way you do that is by shifting your outlook and
1522.74 I’m going to teach you how to do that to get the 
frame of reference where everything’s here to help
1526.64 you help you level up and to live the life that 
you want to okay so those are the pieces of the
1532.34 no porn November program I really hope you join me 
because when you join no porn November challenge
1539.3 then you can move into December with a 30-day 
streak then you move into the new year new year
1545.66 new brain it’s the perfect opportunity to just 
kick some booty and create the life that you want
1551.84 into the new year I know I’m looking forward to 
it because 2022’s handed me my booty on a platter
1558.38 and I cannot wait for a fresh start I’m going 
to heal myself as much as possible and Fresh
1564.08 Start 2023 here I come I want you to come with 
me so let’s do this thing if you don’t want to
1571.7 join the program which I really encourage you 
to join 33 it’s affordable and it’s there for
1576.44 you if you don’t want to at least subscribe to 
the playlist on YouTube where you get shorts you
1581.9 get a 60 Minute 60 second short every other day 
and in the program you get lessons of different
1586.64 sizes but nice nice comprehensive lessons with 
exercises to move you through okay uh so glad to
1593.6 be back and stay tuned for the next episode in 
the next episode I am going to talk about Easy
1600.56 Button lifestyle and how junk food and porn are 
related and what you can do to put them both to
1607.46 bed okay I hope to see you in the next episode and 
until then control your brain or it’ll control you
.